Note to Myself No. 11

Here's the wisdom I've come to.

If somebody breaks your heart

by engaging in behavior that he/she knows

will hurt you if you discover it,

that's heartbreak with malice aforethought,

as we lawyers would say.

I'd rank it as first degree felony heartbreak

(maybe with aggravating circumstances,

depending on whether it was a first or 

subsequent offense).

In other words,

he/she knew that the conduct would inflict

grave emotional harm upon you,

but chose nevertheless

to do what they wanted.

Even if pigs fly,

a heart-breaker like that

doesn't deserve another chance.

The old "when he knows better, he'll do better"

just doesn't apply when he/she knew all along

that he/she was violating your trust

and the rules that operate

in the background of every relationship.

Me consciousness

just isn't enough

in a "we" situation.

If you find yourself wavering,

read this again,

then call me for coaching.